While the people of Israel were still at Rephidim, the warriors of Amalek attacked them. Moses commanded Joshua, “Choose some men to go out and fight the army of Amalek for us. Tomorrow, I will stand at the top of the hill, holding the staff of God in my hand.”
So Joshua did what Moses had commanded and fought the army of Amalek. Meanwhile, Moses, Aaron, and Hur climbed to the top of a nearby hill. As long as Moses held up the staff in his hand, the Israelites had the advantage. But whenever he dropped his hand, the Amalekites gained the advantage. Moses’ arms soon became so tired he could no longer hold them up. So Aaron and Hur found a stone for him to sit on. Then they stood on each side of Moses, holding up his hands. So his hands held steady until sunset. As a result, Joshua overwhelmed the army of Amalek in battle.
God has blessed me with some amazing friendships. There was a time in my life when I didn't think I needed friends. The pain of the possibility of losing them, of them abandoning me, kept me retreating into myself and hesitating to be real and transparent with others. I could have fun with them, but to share the deepest parts of me would never happen. Pretty much every time I say "never" I hear God chuckling, sighing, and saying "wait and see". Once again, His plans for me were better than my own. Fast forward a good 15 years from my "never" statement regarding friendships and I find myself surrounded by a sea of women who I can entrust with so much of my life.
We come up with many excuses as to why we do not need other women in our lives. I find that most of them boil down to either being hurt in our past or being afraid of being hurt in our future. These are valid fears, but ones that I have learned do not outweigh the great benefits of endearing our hearts to our sisters in Christ. I get it. I have been there. But I also have been on the other side of things. Past my personal relationship with Christ and my family, my friendships with women have been the deepest and most important piece of my growth and my sanity.
This has been a tough friend week for many I love. Many friends are in some difficult trials that involve a great deal of heartache. I myself have had some battles and have needed my friends wisdom and comfort as well. I was reminded of the story in Exodus 17:8-13. Moses sent Joshua and his army into battle, per God's command. Moses knew he needed to hold up his staff in order for the battle to be won, but Moses got weary and tired. Even when I go into the battles in my life ready and prepared, I often find myself in the same places as Moses. I can gear up, put on my armor, but when the battle ensues and continues, I get worn down. I love what his friends did for him. It is such a beautiful picture of others coming alongside us and lifting us up when we can no longer do it ourselves. Aaron and Hur got a stone for him to sit on, then they stood on each side of him and held up his hands. What a beautiful picture of the body of Christ and what we are to do for one another. When we see each other struggling, when we find those we love weary and unable to fight the battle, we come alongside them and hold up their arms. We love them, we pray with them, we hug them, we check on them, we bring them meals, we listen, we do whatever needs to be done. We don't judge them for their weakness. We come alongside and encourage them and help them fight the battle.
As difficult as it may be for you to trust others, don't give up. I have been there. I once wanted to do it all on my own. It may have felt "safe" but it was a lonely place to be and there were many, many times I found myself unable to hold up my own arms. There is such a joy and comfort knowing now that I have a number of close friends I can call on in my time of need. There is a reason God calls us to fellowship with one another. He has equipped us all with different gifts and there are times when we may be lifted up and times when we are doing the lifting. Open your hearts. Ask God to bring Godly women into your life who can encourage and lift you up. And if you are blessed with your own Aaron and Hur, praise Him for the beautiful gift of friendship.