The emotional scars we receive in life, I find, are not all that different. Like the physical scars, most of us have emotional scars. Some are clearly seen by all, like the one above my eye. We share these scars openly. They don't bother us too much, we've grown through them. We don't like them, but we've accepted them. There are scars like the one on my face that we try to cover up. We don't like how they make us look or feel, so we do our best to conceal them, never revealing them unless forced to. And then there are those scars that cause us pain and change how we react to situations. If we've been hurt and still feel the pain we often times will process situations in life very differently. Like me with my knee and doing high impact cardio, we have a greater sensitivity to some areas in our lives.
While scars may not be pretty to look at or feel, in the emotional sense, it's important to remember that in order for there to be a scar, healing has had to occur. If our physical scars would not have healed, we would have been left with wounds that had become infected or that remained open and painful until the healing occurred. The scar is not gone. We do not forget what happened. The reminder is there daily. However, we have a choice in how to deal with the scars. When it comes to emotional scars, these are the things that I have found helpful:
-Recognize that you may be more sensitive in some areas. We all react to life based on our
circumstances. Because of this, I have had to ask God to heal these areas and reveal to me when I am being
more sensitive to situations because of my experiences. It's important to remember that others who do not
have the same "injuries" may not understand and we need to extend them grace when they seem insensitive at
-Learn from them. The worst thing we can do is walk right into the same situations, scar tissue built up, and
injur the same wound. Some of our wounds are self-inflicted. They are a result of our own poor choices,
whether known or unknown. Other's were assaults that we had no control over, yet those who inflicted
them exercised their free will. Either way, pray and ask God to give you wisdom. What can you learn from
this? How can you protect yourself from further hurt? How can I grow into a stronger person and serve God
with what I am learning?
-Share them. No cover ups! There are some scars that are too painful to share with the world. But pray and
ask God if He would like you to use your pain for His glory in some way. There is nothing that brings me
greater joy than to be able to share something painful in my life to encourage and point another person
It's time that we stopped seeing scars as ugly and something to be ashamed of in our lives. Scars are beautiful. They are a reminder of a difficult time in our lives, a reminder of healing, and hopefully, an encouragement to us. It may take some time to take off the make-up and allow the world to see your scars, but once you do, you will find purpose in the journey and joy in the healing that has taken place. May we all get to the point where we stop covering up and start opening up. What a beautiful sight that would be!